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Managing the Christmas Excitement! There are a few things as exciting in the eyes of young children as Christmas. Stores come alive with displays, lights, and tinsel. There is music, cookies and treats, dreams of toys and of course — Santa. Young children look up with eyes as big as saucers. Last year's memories of Christmas may be gone as the child was too young to remember, so now they look on as if it is the first time. They are filled with bewilderment and excitement. The pace of their parents, the decorations in the house, and stories of what is to come, fuel their excitement. Then as the big day approaches, parents' pace may change from fast to frantic, stores become overcrowded, and the sheer noise of the season can become deafening. The child moves from bewilderment and excitement to being overwhelmed and scared. Rather than enjoying their child's joy, parents may find themselves managing their child's behavior. Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Clause, but remember that Santa and Christmas can be a stressful time not only for parents, but for young children, too. If the holiday season creates stress in your life, try these tips: Limit family gatherings and social events to one or two per week. Stop doing everything yourself. Enlist help from your friends, children and other family members. Don't overspend. Make a budget and stick to it. Financial burdens are a leading cause of stress. Avoid alcohol. Try sparkling water or apple juice in place of champagne. Get plenty of exercise. Physical activity enhances both your physical and emotional well being. From the Health News@Home, Winter 2002 article on Holiday Stress. For more information about depression or positive ways to cope with stress, call St. Luke's at 208-381-1200 or visit www.stlukesonline.org. Parents can help keep Christmas within tolerable limits for their young children by following these few simple tips: 1) Keep your child's routine stable. Bedtime, naptime, mealtime, and all other regular activities should be maintained as best as possible. These routines provide stability and certainty in the life of the child and helps keep them feeling safe and secure. 2) Avoid extra snacks, cookies, and candies. The rush and fall of sugar in a child's diet can cause both bursts of energy and fatigue as the sugar wears off. These highs and lows can lead to behavior difficulties. If you want to give your child a treat, limit the size and consider offering it as a special dessert — after an appropriate meal. 3) If you take your child on Christmas shopping trips, limit the amount of time you are out and consider taking the stroller or allowing for breaks. Although you may think kids have more energy than you, they really do tire quickly from walking about a shopping mall. Also, consider going out early in the day before the stores get busy and crowded. Being in a noisy crowded space can be very overwhelming to young children. 4) Think safety. Use non-flammable, non-breakable decorations when trimming the tree. With young children in the home, you may consider placing the tree in a special room with a door that can be closed to prevent the child from wandering in. 'Tis the season for fun and excitement. Parents who follow these tips may find the season a little more manageable for themselves as well as their young child. Do make it a Merry Christmas! Article by Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW, from Ontario, Canada, is a child-behavior expert, a social worker, and author of Raising Kids Without Raising Cane (Secrets of the Trade, 1992). Gary has not only helped people get along or feel better about themselves, but has also enjoyed an extensive career in public speaking. He provides insight on issues ranging from child behavior management and development to family life to socially responsible business development.
Managing the Christmas Excitement!
There are a few things as exciting in the eyes of young children as Christmas. Stores come alive with displays, lights, and tinsel. There is music, cookies and treats, dreams of toys and of course — Santa. Young children look up with eyes as big as saucers. Last year's memories of Christmas may be gone as the child was too young to remember, so now they look on as if it is the first time. They are filled with bewilderment and excitement. The pace of their parents, the decorations in the house, and stories of what is to come, fuel their excitement. Then as the big day approaches, parents' pace may change from fast to frantic, stores become overcrowded, and the sheer noise of the season can become deafening. The child moves from bewilderment and excitement to being overwhelmed and scared. Rather than enjoying their child's joy, parents may find themselves managing their child's behavior. Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Clause, but remember that Santa and Christmas can be a stressful time not only for parents, but for young children, too.
From the Health News@Home, Winter 2002 article on Holiday Stress. For more information about depression or positive ways to cope with stress, call St. Luke's at 208-381-1200 or visit www.stlukesonline.org.
Parents can help keep Christmas within tolerable limits for their young children by following these few simple tips: 1) Keep your child's routine stable. Bedtime, naptime, mealtime, and all other regular activities should be maintained as best as possible. These routines provide stability and certainty in the life of the child and helps keep them feeling safe and secure. 2) Avoid extra snacks, cookies, and candies. The rush and fall of sugar in a child's diet can cause both bursts of energy and fatigue as the sugar wears off. These highs and lows can lead to behavior difficulties. If you want to give your child a treat, limit the size and consider offering it as a special dessert — after an appropriate meal. 3) If you take your child on Christmas shopping trips, limit the amount of time you are out and consider taking the stroller or allowing for breaks. Although you may think kids have more energy than you, they really do tire quickly from walking about a shopping mall. Also, consider going out early in the day before the stores get busy and crowded. Being in a noisy crowded space can be very overwhelming to young children. 4) Think safety. Use non-flammable, non-breakable decorations when trimming the tree. With young children in the home, you may consider placing the tree in a special room with a door that can be closed to prevent the child from wandering in. 'Tis the season for fun and excitement. Parents who follow these tips may find the season a little more manageable for themselves as well as their young child. Do make it a Merry Christmas!
Article by Gary Direnfeld, MSW, RSW, from Ontario, Canada, is a child-behavior expert, a social worker, and author of Raising Kids Without Raising Cane (Secrets of the Trade, 1992). Gary has not only helped people get along or feel better about themselves, but has also enjoyed an extensive career in public speaking. He provides insight on issues ranging from child behavior management and development to family life to socially responsible business development.