How a lifetime of service shaped one Idaho foster family
Jesse and Hailey are Idaho foster parents who understand firsthand how complicated families can be. In fact, it’s something they both grew up with.
Hailey’s childhood home was often full. Her siblings mixed with extended family members and foster youth her mother cared for, sometimes swelling to a dozen children on weekends.
Jesse’s upbringing looked different but was no less complicated. He grew up in a home that was often broken, and he knows that, under slightly different circumstances, he could have entered foster care himself.
Along the way, he gathered a group of mother figures who “represented different seasons” of his life. All four sat in the front row at his and Hailey’s wedding.
These experiences shaped how they see children and families — especially those navigating instability, loss, and change.
“I have the perspective of what it's like … you know, adolescence, and to not have a stable environment, or a predictable kind of loving environment,” Jesse said.
(Follow this link to watch a video about Jesse an Hailey’s experiences as foster parents.)
Stability and predictability are central goals of foster care, but they don’t come easily. Youth who’ve experienced upheaval may struggle in school or display big behaviors as they learn to trust again. Jesse remembers how the steady adults in his own life helped guide him, even during unstable years. Today, as a foster dad, he sees his role as returning that gift to others.
The couple has taken in youth, and even opened their home to a single mother and her children for several years.
“Now they are family to us,” Jesse said.
Hailey said she sees the long arc of care clearly, in part because of her own mother’s example. Her mom sometimes wondered whether the many children who passed through their home were truly helped. Hailey recently shared a moment that answered those questions.
One foster youth Hailey’s mother had cared for recently called and told her: “‘I want you to know that I'm alive today because you loved me, because you showed up,’”
Service has always been central to Jesse and Hailey’s family life, long before foster care became part of their story, and it’s something they work to instill in the children in their care.
“We definitely know that our destiny in life is to add value to others,” Jesse said. “And the best life to live is a life when you're in service. So it's something we communicate to our kids. Like, you can live your life for yourself, but you'll end up empty, but if you live your life serving others, it is just more rewarding.”
Their commitment has brought full hearts and a full home — with room still to grow.
Their message to others is simple and direct: “You have this opportunity to take a kid and completely change that person's life,” Jesse said. “And it may work out, or it may not, but you should try.”
Not everyone can be a foster parent, but everyone can help. Supporting youth can mean donating supplies, offering time, or showing up in smaller but meaningful ways.
And for those who can live with uncertainty — who can accept that a child they cared for six months in their early teens may or may not remember them, may never call, may never look back — foster care may be worth considering. You might be a parent figure for a season, for a year, or for a lifetime.
Sometimes, that’s enough to change everything.
Idaho needs foster parents
If you’ve ever considered fostering, know that your willingness to offer a home—even for one child for one season—can change a child’s life forever. For more information, call 2-1-1 or visit the Department of Health and Welfare’s foster care page. You could be the difference that turns a story of struggle into one of hope and belonging.
The Idaho Department of Health and Welfare is dedicated to strengthening the health, safety, and independence of Idahoans. Learn more at healthandwelfare.idaho.gov.
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