Maria is an Idaho foster mom whose decision to foster didn’t come from a place of perfection. It came from experience, reflection, and growth.
As she grew past her challenging childhood, the idea that any child could be without safety, stability, or a place to belong stopped being abstract; it became personal. That quiet conviction is what led her to open her home as a foster parent, determined to be the kind of adult she once needed.
As a child, Maria faced instability and trauma that shaped her early years. Her home life was marked by abuse, violence, and neglect — circumstances no child should have to navigate alone. After her mother died, her father struggled to raise her on his own, and discipline often took the form of fear rather than care.
When things became unsafe at home, a family friend stepped in and did something extraordinary: they became licensed foster parents solely so they could take Maria in. In her new home, Maria experienced something unfamiliar, love and consistency. One memory still stands out decades later: sitting at a table while her foster mom patiently helped her with homework.
At the time, Maria believed she wasn’t smart and that school simply wasn’t for her. Her foster mom didn’t accept that version of the story. She stayed beside her, encouraging persistence and confidence, and planting seeds Maria wouldn’t recognize until much later.
“It was really hard for me,” Maria said, “because I didn't … I hadn't had anybody sit with me to do my homework before.”
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Those small and steady moments mattered. They showed Maria what care could look like.
Like many youth in care, Maria struggled to trust her newfound stability. She rebelled, ran away, and spent time in group homes that brought their own challenges. Even so, the awareness she carried with her never faded. She understood that many children experience harm not because no one sees it, but because too many people look away.
“There's a kid out there that is being abused,” Maria said, “and adults who are supposed to be adults are watching it happen and just don't care.”
That truth stayed with her and eventually became a call to action.
Today, Maria is a licensed foster parent in Idaho. With the support of her congregation, family, neighbors, and community, she has built a home grounded in safety, patience, and intention. And she understands that fostering isn’t something you do alone.
“Yeah, it's been hard, but I feel like if you are brave enough and humble enough to ask for help, people are more than willing to help,” Maria said.
She’s also learned that caring for others requires caring for yourself, a lesson she wants other foster parents to hear.
“You can't help anybody unless you've helped yourself, and you need to be well enough to be able to help others,” she said.
Maria didn’t step into foster care impulsively. She understands the weight of the decision. She understands the emotional complexity, the uncertainty, and the reality that youth in foster care may test boundaries or reject kindness before they trust it. She knows those challenges are part of the work, not a failure of the child or the caregiver.
And still, she chose yes.
“I'm a strong believer that sometimes you're called to do something and sometimes you do it because you're called to do it,” Maria said. “You feel it in your heart that this is what you're supposed to do.”
Idaho needs foster parents
If you're interested in becoming a foster parent, or helping with occasional respite care, it can be as small as committing to one child for one season of their life. Please call 211 or visit the department’s foster care web page for more information. Your willingness to open your home can make a profound difference in a child's life.
The Idaho Department of Health and Welfare is dedicated to strengthening the health, safety, and independence of Idahoans. Learn more at healthandwelfare.idaho.gov.
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